Article

Our response is, perhaps he doesn t know why he gets in the car and drives to work, either. ppNow your husband is thinking about this new person. He is hoping she e-mails pictures. He is thinking about how he will conceal her from you. He is plotting it out in his mind.ppDon t expect to ever know the truth from him. The truth is of no advantage to him. In the many letters we receive, the betrayed party feels they never learned the entire truth.ppIf you pursue your quest for information, you will want to know several things. How long has he been doing this? How many partners has he had? What kind of precautions has he taken, if any? What does he tell others about you and your relationship?ppAt some point you will tell your husband what you know. The more you know, the fewer excuses he can offer. He may fall back on the betrayer s standard excuse: it s your fault.ppWe don t allow for that. You don t cheat. If you have problems, you talk to your spouse. If you are going to get involved with another person, you end your marriage first.